How would you feel if you found out two of your closest friends were talking about you?
It happened to me last week and I have to tell you, I was fine. I had no anxiety or insecurity.
That kind of trust is a big deal.
That’s because I have loyal, good friends.
In genuine friendship you’re either in or you’re out. You show up or you don’t.
According to a New York Times article, Do Your Friends Actually Like You?, the quality of one’s relationships has a tremendous impact on one’s health and well-being.
There is confusion about what friendship is today. I have acquired over 800 Facebook friends, but that number is meaningless. I have only a handful of close friends, people I can count on to care about me. And who I can do the same for.
Some parents teach their children they can’t trust their friends, to be careful, that their friends may be jealous or untrustworthy.
I can’t say I haven’t experienced toxic, hurtful relationships because I have, but still I’ve encouraged my children to cultivate friendships, and to trust. When you find the ones who are true blue, the ones who are concerned for your well being, despite your shortcomings, it’s a gift.
I know because last week when I was not my best self, my friends were empathetic and knew enough about me (and psychology) to understand that when it’s hysterical it’s historical.
They showed up with kindness and generosity of spirit. They reminded me that they had my back.
So it’s worth paying attention to. Who can you learn from, laugh with, count on?
My friends know everything, and I mean everything about me.
And having authentic relationships exercises a part of our brain called the smart vagus nerve, which is important because when it loses tone, people are more anxious and deep connections are more difficult to sustain. According to Alexander Nehamas, a professor of philosophy at Princeton, friendship is not a means to higher status, an invitation to someone’s vacation home or simply an escape from your own boredom.
Today people are in such a rush. They don’t take the time to develop strong ties and that loss is huge.
I’m so grateful for my friends and what we’ve become together.
So here’s a shout-out to my close friends. I couldn’t, and wouldn’t want to do it without you!!
Love you CORIE.
Lucky to call you my friend
I feel the same way Norma!!
Most important– feeling safe with your friends!!
Lucy and Ethel live on…
Long live Lucy and Ethel!! And safety is the key!
Thanks for all the laughs, and poor Norma and all those years of early morning phone calls!! Xo
Love our amazing lifelong friendship….say,pay Leann, soul sisters, double first cousins, maid of honor runner up (I’m so over that, haha).
I love our friendship too! And I’m over the fact that you always had to be the banker and cheated in Monopoly and Billy too!
Tough break Pammy!! True Friends stab you in the front
Thanks for being my friend Corie!!
Lynn- our friendship is paying off! All words spelled correctly!! ❤️
My dad used to tell me u can choose your friends like books, choice but few!! It’s the truth. I have a group of friends that I can safely say that I’m fortunate to have that will always be there for me. It’s a blessing! Great article!!
It is a blessing. Thanks Gladys!!
Surround yourself with people who get it" you get it Corie! Friends like you are the best therapy! So thankful! Lets keep laughing at eachother , with eachother.Great post
Thanks Ronni! This means a lot!!
without having sisters I truly rely on my friends, so grateful to have friends that I can count on to be honest with me and know how to laugh with me not at me! Great post!
Love this Corie! It feels so good when you can be real with your true friends even when you are not ok!
winter, spring summer or fall- all you have to do is call
I just don’t know who I would be or what my life would be without my dearest friends. Here’s to my handful.
Cheers to that! … and to creating another generation of great friends 😉